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When we began our adoption search, my wife and I were like many couples in this similar situation. We had fertility problems which made achieving a successful pregnancy impossible. We went through the pills, pokes and surgeries, hoping to conceive. But it never happened … and it wasn’t going to happen.

So for nearly two years after my wife’s surgery, we struggled with the decision to adopt. We didn’t want adoption to be a "rebound" reaction to our infertility problems. We wanted to make sure that adoption was right for us … and that we were doing it for the right reasons.

Once we said yes to adoption, we were nearly discouraged to the point of quitting after calling our local agencies. We realized that the adoption process was just as daunting as infertility had been.

We wanted to get started, but we didn’t know where to begin. And once we began … we didn’t know what to do next.

We were not very old (only in our late 20s), but that wasn’t the point. We had spent seven years struggling through infertility, and we were not ready to spend two to four years more waiting to adopt.

We realized quickly that if we wanted to become parents sooner rather than later, we would have to take the search process for an adopted infant into our own hands.

We needed guidance but there was very little to be found. We had to learn it on our own, through our own trial and error.

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